The Benefits of Holding Hands

Robert Fulgham is known for saying that everything we need to learn, we learned in kindergarten. Writers being solitary creatures forget that everything we need for writing, we also learned in kindergarten. We all think of writing groups as ways to help each other, but we overlook other key ways writers can help each other. The writer sitting alone in his cabin and getting the next great American novel published is the exception, not the rule. Like any other business, writers need to network and market.

Writers help each other by passing on opportunities. I met another writer years ago through an online writer’s forum. We’ve both dropped off that site but stayed in touch via FaceBook and e-mail. Deb’s published and her novel’s done well. http://www.doghornpublishing.com/crashin_the_real.html She’s currently editing an anthology (Women Writing the Weird). Deb also invited me to submit and accepted one of my short stories. Because she was still looking for stories, with her permission, I sent out inquiries to other writers I knew from the Superstars Writing Seminar. http://Superstarswritingseminar.com Another friend’s story has also been accepted.

Other writers are resources. Most of us have had at least one other career. I know how lawyers talk and think since I am one. I don’t really know how doctors talk. I do, however – see the lawyer slipped in -, know a fellow writer who’s a doctor. If I was writing a medical thriller, I’d ask him to read the first draft and tell me what I had wrong.

Other writers help you stay motivated and hold you accountable. It’s like having an exercise or diet buddy. After all, who can understand the ups and downs of writing better? Writers need to network, commiserate and, well, get honest feedback about what they write from others who are wrestling with the same questions: is my female lead too weak; my male lead too much of a jerk; Are they believable; Does anyone care about them other than me? And I’m competitive enough that when we throw out challenges, I rise to the word count.

So Fictorians, as Robert Fulgham said:

. . . Share everything. . .
When you go out in the world,
Watch out for traffic, hold hands,
And stick together. . . .

About Nancy

I'm a mommy, writer and lawyer. I've been a lawyer for over 20 years and live on a horse farm in Virginia with my Hubby and two boys. A "normal day" starts at 5 am and doesn't end until 11 pm during which I take care of farm animals, run a law practice, get a bit of writing in and spend time with the boys. When I say I have a normal life, people look at me funny. I'm not sure why.

4 responses on “The Benefits of Holding Hands

  1. Colette Vernon

    Great post. It’s so true. I’ve gained so much more insight through my writing contacts than all the books I’ve read that it’s impossible to calculate. Also, it’s plain fun. I’m getting to know great people who love the writing experience as much as I do.

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